@roko The underlying issue at hand is that being gentle and kind is meaningless if you don't show that you can be mean and aggressive. You don't laud soap scum for being relatively harmless, but you're impressed at the perfectly-trained Alsatian wolfdog that's being super friendly. The soap scum can harm you if you're both negligent and incompetent, while you constantly respect the Alsatian who's tolerating your dumb bullshit.