I am absolutely reasonable when it comes to finding solutions and working together to make the world a better place. One's color, sex, religion, orientation, etc is irrelevant to be if one wants to help me with this goal.
What I am not reasonable about is appeasing the delusions white American culture has concocted to deny and avoid what has been the problem for centuries.
If the price of your 'allyship' is appeasing your feelings based on your assumptions, I don't want it.