@requrious Req, I am a new user both on fediverse and qoto.org, which I did find via the listing you are discussing here.
I have been involved in what today we call social networking sicne the early 90s, via local BBSes and Fidonet. (I actually was surprised by the orgazational structure here, which closely resembles FN)
It's been only one week for me, but I have amybe over 500 posts, all from my qoto account. I have not seen any posts originating or appearing in qoto's Local feed that were rude, disrespectful, obnoxious or inapropriate. (and I have been a mod in different places and systems over the years.)
I think @freemo is doing a good job and the instance is growing. It does have a more open policy than other instances I had visited, where posting something like a Political newspaper snippet/link requires a Content Warning, which dismayed me (and I wouldn't personally participate there).
Qoto has been getting a number of new users and growing. Many come in after finding it via the page you referred to, and I think they are well served at that instance.
I am not at this point staff, mod or admin at the site, but support the sys admin and the listing of the instance as a satisfied user.
The final paragraph of the Rules section summarizes well, I think, the local policy, and I quote:
"We are all adults here, act like it. Despite our belief in freedom of expression (free speech) we want to create a space where people are respectful to each other. Don't disrespect people; if they disrespect you then block them and move on. If we get a report on one of our users then an administrator will reach out to the parties involved and try to mediate a peaceful resolution. We will talk it through like mature adults. Lets remember there is a person at the other end of the screen, if we can be mature in real life we can do it here too."
Thank you.