Notices by Ben Lubar (ben@mastodon.lubar.me)

@sophia this is how the internet should work

if a provider refuses to stop bad acting, they are a bad actor and you go up the chain

@sophia #Windows is #FOSS, so why would you use #Linux?

I love how many technologies are just people removing features, finding out they're important, and then reimplementing them on top of their less-useful thing.

Like people who use UDP and then realize they need all the things TCP gives anyway.

Or people trying to implement a relational database in Redis.

Or the fact that the internet has tried to invent email somewhere around ten thousand times now.

if I had to summarize the arguments I've gotten into here as a pie chart:

75% I used the wrong word
5% someone else used the wrong word
19% I used the wrong word and someone else also used the wrong word
1% we both used the right word but our definitions of the word are subtly different

The fediverse has a weird form of dispute resolution that doesn't work at all.

1. Someone does something that someone else disagrees with.

2. Person B blocks person A. So far so good.

3. Person C finds out that Person B blocked Person A when mentioning them both in a post. Far from optimal, but whatever.

4. Occasionally, Person C asks what went wrong. If Person A sees this (either by a third party posting about the incident or because it was a public post that got shown to them through some weirdness of federation), they can fix whatever went wrong. That's probably the worst possible way to deliver that information, but let's keep going.

5. Now Person A has stopped whatever thing they were doing. Problem solved, right?

6. Except it isn't solved because Person A has no way of apologizing to Person B, and Person B has no way of seeing that Person A stopped whatever they were doing.

7. The conflict remains unresolved forever.

Person A has no way of resolving the conflict at this point and Person B has no way to find out that the conflict can be resolved. Person B will never forgive Person A because their final interaction was the block.

Everyone feels bad forever despite the problem appearing to be solved to an uninvested third party. Because they're now frozen in the worst part of their relationship forever.

Protecting people is great, and we do need the block system to be there. But we also need a way of *solving* problems.

You can't just stop the conflict. There needs to be a way it can be *resolved*.

@anna phobias are irrational fears, though

How to protect your work from constructive criticism:

1. Release your work
2. But make a very obvious very minor mistake
3. Everyone will correct that one very minor mistarke